How to get Dances?

How to Get More Dances at a Social?

Ever been to a dance night, hoping for an amazing evening of non-stop dancing, only to find yourself sitting on the sidelines? Maybe you didn’t get as many dances as you’d hoped, or you missed out on dancing with that one person you were eyeing. The truth is—if you rely purely on being asked, you’re leaving your dance experience to chance!

The solution? Take control. Ask for dances!

For some, asking for a dance can feel nerve-wracking. But don’t worry—I’ve got you covered! With over 15 years of experience as a Salsa Buena dance teacher and more than two decades on the dance floor, I’ve put together the best tips to help you confidently get ALL the dances you want.

1. Anyone Can Ask—Yes, You Too!

Ladies, gentlemen, however you choose to define yourself, leads, follows—anyone can ask anyone for a dance. It’s the norm at dance nights! There’s no need to wait to be asked. Just reach out, smile, and say, “Would you like to dance?” It’s that simple!

And while dance nights are primarily about dancing, let’s be honest—sometimes sparks fly! But whether you’re there for connection, fun, or simply the love of dance, the key is to be proactive.

2. Do the Classes Beforehand

Taking part in the pre-social classes helps you warm up, meet fellow dancers, and make connections that will carry over into the social. A simple, “Hope to catch you later for a dance!” as you rotate in class can work wonders.

A Quick Note on Class Levels: If you’ve recently moved up from beginners, don’t panic if a guest teacher’s class feels challenging. Guest instructors teach based on the overall level of the room. If it feels too tough, there’s no shame in stepping back into the lower-level class. It’s all about enjoyment and progression!

3. Hit the Dance Floor Early

Once the social starts, get on the floor straight away! The early part of the night is usually less crowded, making it easier to grab dances and build momentum before the rush of late arrivals.

4. Set a Goal for Yourself

Challenge yourself: “Tonight, I won’t leave until I’ve asked at least three new people to dance.” Achieve it? Great! Next time, increase that number. Over time, you’ll find yourself asking effortlessly all night long.

5. Look Available

If you spend all night deep in conversation at the back of the venue, don’t be surprised if you don’t get many dances! Instead:
✅ Stand near the dance floor.
✅ Move to the music.
✅ Make eye contact and smile.

A little body language goes a long way!

6. Don’t Take Rejection Personally

Even the best dancers get turned down. People might need a break, feel tired, or have other reasons. It’s not about you. If someone declines, just smile and ask someone else. Your next dance is always just around the corner!

7. Let People Know You’re Still Learning

If you’re new or still building confidence, it’s okay to say:
“I’m still learning—dancing with you would really help me!”

Most experienced dancers will be happy to adapt and make the dance enjoyable for both of you.

💡 Leads: Simple, well-executed moves are far better than attempting complicated ones you’re not confident with yet. Focus on connection and musicality!

8. The Big No-Nos: BO, Bad Breath & Sweat!

Dance is close-contact. Be considerate.
✔️ Shower before you go.
✔️ Use deodorant.
✔️ Brush your teeth.
✔️ Wear a clean fresh top.

Bringing a towel, spare top, mints and deodorant to busy and long dance nights is a standard part of the dancers’ toolkit. 

Nobody wants to dance with someone who smells like they’ve been wrestling a bear in a sauna!

9. Be Mindful of Dips & Tricks

Dips can be risky! Leads—don’t dip a beginner or attempt one unless you’re experienced. Followers—never rely on your lead to hold you up, it can lead to serious falls and injuries; always support your own weight in a dip.

10. Respect the Space Around You

Dance floors get crowded! Leads, it’s your responsibility to make sure your partner has enough space for each move. If you accidentally bump another couple, apologise—it’s just good dance etiquette!

And Finally… Just Ask!

The magic formula? A smile, a confident ask, and a respectful dance.

Want to put these tips into action? Join us at Salsa Buena Classes & Events in Cardiff and Cowbridge! Whether you’re a complete beginner or an experienced dancer, our vibrant dance community is ready to welcome you.

💃 Find out more about our classes, events, and how to book on our website. We can’t wait to dance with you!